Sunday, April 4th, 2010
Blogs | Sociology of Sheena
Sex Crimes in the New York Times
I was heading over to the New York Times to read the obituaries because its my favorite section, when I came across this headline on the front page.
Did I read that right? Was a seven year old girl gang raped by six people? After reading further, I learned her fifteen year old sister played a part in making it happen. I can’t fathom it.
I have a sixteen, eleven and five year old sister. I can’t imagine any of us being so possessed or so stupid as to do something that dumb.
I say I can’t fathom it and yet the sexual abuse I suffered from my ex step father began at the age of seven. I don’t understand what turns a man on sexually about a young child. I can’t even begin to understand it.
And to see examples of family members pimping each other out, it makes “The Darkest Child” read more like an autobiography and not a work of fiction. Why do I find it so far fetched to imagine a sister would do this or that men would do this, when we have done worse and will continue to do worse.
I just get frustrated when things happen to people who can’t fight back. When things happen to people who don’t have a voice. It’s even heart breaking to read further on and see the various quotes the little girl makes. It seems like she was more aware and bothered by the fact that people knew she was the girl who was hurt, than the very fact that she was hurt.
I do not understand it at all.
After browsing through the NYTimes section under “Sex Crimes,” I also happened upon…
It speaks of a molestation case that came out years later. Decades before when the issue was brought before the church, they had the priest go to counseling and then he was allowed to return to his position…working with children again.
What is wrong with people? This very same thing is currently happening with Daniel C. Young Sr, my ex step father who sexually abused me for seven years. After the justice system completely failed, he moved to another suburb of Chicago, went to “counseling” and now he’s a leader in the church again. Even remarried a women who has a daughter. But the women believes my abuse to be “alledged.” That’s interesting Kim..seeing as to how I have a copy of his confessions with the details of the abuse on paper from his interview with the police.
Point is…do I think Daniel and anyone else who abuses children should be put in a dark room and left alone forever? Well, yea, sometimes I believe that. What I believe more than that though, is that they should never be allowed to work with children again, that we shouldn’t assume counseling and therapy heals anyone. Being an abuser of any kind…it happens because, according to me, you make a choice. You, yourself are not the alcoholic who then became sober for twenty years who then took another drink. You are a person and you made a choice to drink. The situations surrounding that choice, the allowances you gave yourself, the enabling of others, the fail of society to hold you accountable..those aided in your horrible choice. But to label ones self as the choice, is just weird.
Daniel isn’t a sexual abuser, persay. He just likes to do sexual things with children. And you can counsel him for years. But you can’t “heal” a choice. A wound can heal. The emotional wounds his choice left on my body, that can heal. They form into scars but they heal. But a choice can’t heal. You do or don’t do. And perhaps he will never touch another child in his life.
But you tell me. If a man got away scott free with sexually abusing his own daughter for seven years with the church still standing behind him…do you think his choices really have changed. Especially since he believes his choices were influenced by the devil?
Sisters….don’t pimp your siblings out to men.
Men..stop fucking over children.
Churches…stop enabling, hiding, and giving power to nasty men.
Justice…when will you stop turning a blind eye to this sexual epidemic.
Friends of Daniel…for those of you who read my blog and are still friends with Daniel. Go fuck yourselves. Or why don’t you let him babysit your children and grandchildren for a weekend and then let me know how your friendship is doing.