Farewell to Your Heroes. Pt 2

As mentioned in yesterday’s post, I believe there comes a time when specific relationships have traveled their intended course in your life and its now time to move on. I am particularly speaking of relationships with mentors, counselors, coaches, therapist, heroes, role models and other kinds of “leaders” in your life.

The need for this closure can manifest due to many reasons.

1. The intended goals have been met. (I wrote on this yesterday in Farewell to Your Heroes ~ Pt 1)
2. You are headed in completely different directions.
3. An issue has arisen of a negative nature and its best to sever the tie.

What would you add?

REASON NUMBER 2: You are headed in completely different directions.

There have been role models, heroes, and topical leaders in my life that held special meaning to me because of their specific style, purpose, or common cause. One such example would be my former youth pastor of a church I attended in high school. Immediately upon joining this church, I was excited by everything the youth pastor believed in. I admired his dedication to his religion and spirituality. Any time he wanted to rally the youth to protest, speak out or make a different in the community, I was all for the cause. I believed in his message. More than just his leadership role in my life as the youth pastor, he also became a spiritual life coach type of mentor. We held numerous conversations that were encouraging about all aspects of life and I pretty much soaked it all up.

Eventually my spirituality evolved. I still believed in the same version of god as he but the way I wanted to express that and live that out were no longer aligned with his teachings. Rather than throw myself into despair at our differences, I took it as a sign to find a different kind of spiritual leader. I started attending a different church with a different youth group that was more aligned with my school of thought. I didn’t cry over losing the first youth pastor as my spiritual mentor. There was no need for it. We were just at two completely different places in our lives and expressed it in vastly different ways.

Its ok to change, evolve and progress. Its more than ok if your evolutions do not match those to whom you look up to. Its EVEN more than ok to change your perspective and the people in your life. It’s not a negative thing in regards to them or you. It’s just how life is sometimes.

We are led to believe that these leaders are not humans. We put them on pedestals as sacred gods and try to bronze them. Life is more fluid than that and no human, no matter how great they are needs to be dipped in bronze. (While we are gods…..we are also human. We often forget that about our hereos, mentors and role models)

Look back at your past with them and be grateful for what they meant to you at that time. After that, embrace yourself and embark on the next leg of your life journey whether that be solo or with a different person taking the lead as your role model or guide.

Tomorrow, I’ll speak on the last reasons that a need for closure may manifest itself with mentors, counselors, coaches, therapist, heroes, role models and even certain kind of leaders.

3. An issue has arisen of a negative nature and its best to sever the tie.

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