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Thursday, August 26th, 2010
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Letting Go of Symbolic Painful Days
The power is within you. Know it. Harness it. Use it.
In the past, August 26th has been a difficult day for me to move through. Often I was overtaken by painful memories, frustration and even anger. Sometimes, I didn’t even realize it. I’d just notice that I my energy was red with fury, my disposition was prickly and after further thought, it would go back to the simple fact that August 26th was a very specific day regarding a very specific person.
You may have days like that. Maybe today is the day someone close to you died. Maybe its the day you were in a horrible accident. Maybe its the day you lost a job, your house or your best friend. Each day symbolizes that for someone and in the past August 26th was the devil’s day for me.Â Never mind Halloween.
In my own personal journey of evolution via healing and restoration, I realize I can’t hold on to days like today. I have to view them differently. Otherwise my writings and talks about empowerment are useless, lies and hypocrisy. How can I tell you, you have the power to think, act and say, thus creating your life and destiny, if I’m sitting in my room crying because today brings back sad memories?
For the first time in years, August 26th was completely different for me. It is my hope that in the journey of your life, you’re able to take symbolic days of sadness, hurt, pain, grief, loss and anger and transmute them into a place of center.
This is how I maintained centeredness and continue to do it throughout today.
These are in no particular order.
1.ACKNOWLEDE “IT”. But do not dwell on it. And only acknowledge it for the time its worth. The more thought you give to it, the more that dark power will grow and overshadow your entire day.
2. KEEP BUSY. I have filled my day attacking my to do list with a vengeance. Surprisingly, I’ve crossed off so much! Upon further reflection I realize I need to do this every day. Rather than sitting in a dark room with somber music playing and rehashing bad memory after another, I have kept myself busy. Wash dishes. Paint the wall. Make appointments. Pay your bills. Finish the project. Write a letter. And just keep going.
3. MEDITATE.While keeping busy is helpful, it’s also important to come to a place of quiet rest and stillness and meditate. Meditate does not mean sitting there and letting your thoughts drift to the hurt. It means sitting and focusing on your breath. Should a thought…any thought positive or negative come to mind, simply say to yourself, “Thinking. Thinking. Thinking.” Until that thought passes and then go back to breath. This may take five minutes of your day or two hours of your day. Find a moment to meditate on your difficult days….(and your great days too!)
4. TRANSMUTE YOUR THOUGHTS. Transmute means to change from one nature to another. Transform. Simply put…CHANGE YOUR MIND. The moment a bad memory crept into my mind, I violently shook it from my head and replaced it with something far better, greater and magnificent. I replaced it with my sisters laughter. Mr. Officer’s kiss. My favorite quote. My happiest memory. It is your choice to think about the darkness. Stay there if you want. I don’t want that. If I want to be my highest form of self, I can not give in to those tendencies. Therefore when unpleasant memories try to bubble to the forefront of my consciousness, I quickly replace them with something far better. Try it.
5. DO ALL YOUR FAVORITE THINGS. If you love to sing, sing a song. If you love to bake, bake a cake. If you love watching FRINGE, have a FRINGE marathon. Do as many of your favorite things as humanly possible within your day. Fill it with memories of loving, nurturing and celebrating yourself and the things you love.
6. RECLAIM YOUR DAY. Today is your day. The Universe, the All, God, Allah, Adonai…whatever you want to call this higher being…even if you are that higher being…. I’ll say the universe for now. The universe…the magical god of all things woke you up this morning. Today is specifically for you. Make it your own. Make it your holiday. May it your HOLY day. Sure, something horrible may have happened today but re-purpose it. Give today new meaning. Develop a ritual or tradition. Instead of it now being a day of tragedies, make it a day of sacredness. If its a day where you lost someone to a death…I’m not saying forget about them. Instead of focusing on their passing…try focusing on celebrating their life and welcoming their spirit into the now.
What would you add to this list?
Before you can do any of this, it is important to begin the process of healing yourself from whatever sadness it is that this day symbolizes. Whether its from abuse, grief & loss, and/or injury & illness. Healing is so important. Healing happens in stages and takes on many forms. It is the pathway into your empowered life.
Give yourself the credit you deserve and embrace your divine placement in the now. You are here for such a time as this. Therefore restore yourself. Empower yourself. Live in the highest form of you. Claim today as your own.
Know your power. Harness your power. Live in your power.
HELPFUL SLY READINGS
If you find that you need a little help along the way…
~Foster open & honest friendships with people who can hold you accountable to your goals for life.
~Find a healthy, transparent, legal community that supports you.
~Nurture your spirit…whether that’s through meditation, holy text and sacred sanctuary with like-minded individuals.
~Consider therapy and counseling with someone who has a professional repore and who after careful examination, you trust yourself with.
Just know the power is with in you. Go back to the center of yourself….as cliche as it sounds…the answer is there.