Wednesday, August 18th, 2010
Blogs | Sociology of Sheena
Maintaining Centeredness with Other’s Negativity
As you attain your sense of inner peace, love and zen state of mind, you will find you have an increase in days of centeredness. Day after day you find yourself satisfied with your life, excited to experience the next moment and intentionally staying present in the now.¬† You learn lessons. You stay flexible and¬† adaptable. Even when the unexpected happens or the more challenging situations present themselves to you, you approach it with grace.¬† You react out of love and after a good cry, you come back to center.
This is your life and you love it. You love others and you love yourself.
Then…you get a call from a friend. You find their energy is low or negative all together. There is yet another drama in their life. The world is conspiring against them. No one loves them. Someone stole their car. They failed a test. God hates them. Nothing ever goes right. Their grandma just died. The dog ate their homework. They hate their ex. They don’t have enough money. They think men are dogs and women are banchees. So the list of their unbalanced life goes and goes.
If you are not conscious to the fact that energy can transfer from one person to the next, you may begin to feel, experience and project this negativity into your own life if you aren’t careful. Or you find that you feel guilty since even though your life isn’t perfect, you are satisfied. Or you feel horrible that while you have enough or you live in abundance, this person never has satisfaction. Therefore the cancer of their negativity has invaded your life and is spreading and taking over your sense of balance and peace.
Do not let this happen. Don’t let others low energy or negativity destroy your positivity, happiness, or sense of centeredness. Don’t let others knock you down to their lower realm of living.
1. While encountering this person, be empathetic. Don’t pity them but be empathetic.
2. Be gracious and compassionate while viewing them with magical eyes. (Megan talks about magical eyes over on Owning Pink.) Rather than getting frustrated at yet another issue they are dealing with, remember they are holy too. Maybe they’ve forgotten this but don’t you forget it.
3. Listen. Sometimes a person just needs to vent. We all have our days. I have them. You have them. So perhaps just listen. Don’t try to fix them. That isn’t your job in life.
4. Offer advice…ONLY if they ask for it. Sometimes a person is expressing their frustrations, anger or issues because they are at a lost and don’t know what to do with their life or this specific situation. So if they want…and you should ask if they do….offer advice, if you have it. This must be done with grace. Practical advice is great. Offering resources and recommendations can be great too.
5. While your life is wonderful, don’t flaunt it. Modesty and humbleness is more gracious than pretentiousness and boastfulness. This isn’t a one up game or a platform for you to brag about just how centered and conscious and great your life is. That is neither gracious, loving, or godly.
6. After encountering this person, leave their energy in that past moment. Do not take their energy with you. Let it go. Go to a place and take a moment to breathe. Go do something that you love. Hug your child and be grateful. Say your favorite affirmations. Read your favorite poem. Find the thing that gets you back to center and stay there.
If the person has an overall negative view of life and every encounter with them is full of darkness, complaining and a general bad attitude towards everything, you may want to re-evaluate their role in your life and limit your contact with them.