If you’re SEXY and you know it, clap your ass?

*** As of May 2013, I am no longer affiliated with S Factor NY and can no longer vouch for the quality of your experience. But if you like recommendations on any other pole studios, please shoot me an email. I love praising quality companies that offer a great service and practice sound business while empowering women in all aspects.

For every person that is intrigued about my S Factor Pole Dancing classes, I find that one more person usually has a response such as, “You’re taking stripper classes?” or “I couldn’t do it. What would my mom say?” or “It just seems so degrading.”

I wonder, why is it that women who embrace their sexuality and/or sensuality are deemed strippers, whores and sluts with over zealous sex drives? Why is it that we assume she’s doing these things such as taking a burlesque class with the intent to learn tricks in bed to please her partner? What if she likes being inside her body? What if she likes taking a moment to let her body take up space? What if she’s using it in the same manner men would use a  cigar club?

What if my classes are less about clapping my ass and more about embracing the fact that I have an ass?

As mentioned in my very first review of S Factor, I came in with a lot of assumptions. I thought the room would be filled with 20 poles and the first thing the teacher might say would be, “Everybody pick a pole!” That is not what happened. I always walk into a candle lit room with nine mats in a circle, beautiful music playing and we begin with a yoga like S Factor warm up and stretch.

It is during these first moments that I let go of everything. I have project deadlines to meet. I have a blog to update. I have a to do list with 70 things on them. I need to load the dishwasher…. and I just keep going. Yes, I work on being present and intentional but my body….I hardly say hello to her. Therefore in this intimate, calming and sensual setting I get to stretch my body for awhile. Since I’m walking in straight lines all day, its refreshing to rotate my hips around. To arch my back. To twist and turn. To slowly descend on to the floor. To crawl. To throw my head back…….. entering happy place now. 🙂

We have no problem treating our body well physically by going to the gym, going to yoga, running in the park because we know that aids in our well being and longevity. Despite that, SO many people hardly treat their body well emotionally, spirituality, sensually and sexually…..(even if you are abstinent or celibate or quite a prude). Those aspects are JUST AS IMPORTANT.

Last Tuesday in class, I was dog tired. I was extremely sore from my Afro Caribbean class the day before. I was horny as well but didn’t want to just sleep with someone for the heck of it. I was rotating my to do list in my head over and over again and I was constantly cringing and holding tension because of the cold weather. My body was taking a sever beating in many ways. Then I walked into that wonderful S Factor room with my booty shorts and t-shirt and I laid on my mat and with my instructors guidance, I slowly started to reconnect with my body. “There are my legs. Wow, I had no idea I could stretch myself that much,” I thought. “There’s my neck. I didn’t know that part felt good when touched as well,” I said to myself as I explored. And at one point after extending backwards on my knees, as I slowly descended back to the ground, I let my hands wander and my right hand found its way right above my heart, pretty much at the heart chakra and I just let it stay there.

I felt the warmth. I felt my hand touch my collarbone. I felt my skin. My skin is so soft. I just took a moment to breathe. I didn’t think of anything. I just let my hand connect with my heart. And I cried tears of joy. There it was again, I was encountering myself physically again. I had just taken a moment to be in my body and to acknowledge and embrace it. I saw myself. Every curve. Every intricacy and it felt so good. I am beautiful. I am alive. I am well.

Can I go to this class every day of the week? 🙂

That moment happened within the first fifteen minutes of class. The rest of class was fun, sexy, challenging and I had a good time. We learned a new twirl. Was it the butterfly or the ballerina? I can’t remember. I struggled a bit but coming out of it into the cat crawl was my favorite part. I danced in six inch heels. I did lots of things and learned so many things about myself physically and emotionally. I am a very sassy woman that likes to be left alone I have realized!

The things we did and explored were not grotesque. They were not whorish. My instructor did not teach my how to be slut.

They taught me how to be well with my body. How to embrace and encounter it. For any person in my life, whether they are a friend, a lover or even a colleague, you will benefit from me taking this class. By giving my self grace and love, it means I extend it more to those around me. It means that when you are beating yourself up because you think your ass looks fat, I am going to encourage you. It means that I will hug you and I will see you and love you.

No, I’m not taking stripper classes. I am taking a class where I learn the art of me and my body and how to love myself passionately. By doing so it means I will love you passionately. Count yourself blessed that I’m not too prudish to shy away from something so good.

On a side note, I know that a variety of companies offer pole dancing classes and I can not speak for their intrigrity or what goes on there. I can only assume some of them are geared more towards a “stripper in training” type of course. Even still I have no hang ups about a woman who choose to do so. I am also not small minded to think that every stripper was abused or does drugs. Please, I almost considered working as a “Go Go” dancer at this swanky dance club in NY years ago. If you’re honest about it, its very similar. And if I mount a high horse for a second, don’t get me started on the whore like ways many women dance at clubs in an effort to snag a guy or a free drink. Seems to me, you’re getting something in return for shaking your ass…much like a stripper. Or how many women wear a low cut blouse or tight dress to elicit a certain response or to get a certain thing. Same philosophy used. So…even if I were taking a stripper class, who gives a damn!

But I’m not. I’m taking a me class. A sensual, exotic, extremely hard working work out class that is getting me in tuned with my body, replaces a day at the gym and toning up muscles I didn’t even know I had. While you’re so busy crossing your legs, I’ve learned ten more ways that I can move. How about that!

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  • Irendi
    Reply

    I love LOVE love the last picture on this post.

    You have me seriously wanting to find a class near me for dance!

  • Enne
    Reply

    Love this! I’m a troller on your blog and this is my first time commenting! But that “horny” comment got me wondering; are you still dating Mr Officer?

    • SLY
      Reply

      @Enne. Mr. Officer and I are no longer together. Although whether in a relationship or not, I could be just as horny. Maybe the person is out of town or they aren’t in the mood and so forth. So relationship status doesn’t have a bearing on my level of “i want sex now!” 🙂 “Troller on your blog” FUNNY!

  • Enne
    Reply

    Lol! Yeh girl I love your posts!!! Sorry to hear about Mr Officer but it sounds like you’re doing just fine! All the best… *back to trolling through archives*

    • SLY
      Reply

      @Enne. I’m glad you love the post. The reasons why things went south are too bad although I’m not sorry and I have no regrets. But I’m not one to cry over spilled milk or feel that I need a man to be whole. People enhance your life, they aren’t the reason for it. But I’m sure you know this! But I will say….being single is a huge relief. I may have to do a post about it. And dating when I want to….is very fun! I am well! Enjoy the archives. If you go back too far, you may encounter a different version of Sheena, LOL!

  • Jelena
    Reply

    Love all your posts about S factor! You are truly one S woman 😉
    Kisses from Croatia

    • SLY
      Reply

      @Jelena…THANK YOU. I have so much fun in class. I love it. I told them they need to trademark an S Factor Yoga class and start teaching that too. Then maybe I could commit to a yoga class!

      @Irendi…you must take this class! I think every woman once she hits 18 needs this class.

  • Megan Mayfield
    Reply

    Even IF the women are taking these classes to learn some new tricks for the bedroom, there’s nothing wrong with that! 🙂

    • SLY
      Reply

      @Megan, you are absolutely right. Although it should be because she wants to learn those tricks and not because someone is influencing her to do so. I find that a number of women make certain sexual choices to appease a man when it would seem to be better if the impulse came from their own desire. BUT no matter, if a woman was doing it to learn how to be a stripper or to learn tricks, than more power to her. It’s not the point of the S Factor classes but its ok if that is someone’s motivation.

  • Tracie
    Reply

    Sheena…..I love this post…and I love you!

    The way you write about your class makes me want to try one, at least once.

    Sorry to hear about Mr.Officer, but it is good that you are having fun dating and embracing this new season in your life. That is a good thing, no matter what bad things happened to end your relationship.

  • SLY
    Reply

    @Tracie, they do have an introductory class that they offer which is pretty much like the Level One, Week One class. I took that one first and decided to commit to all the levels. You should try it just to see.

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