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Monday, March 14th, 2011
Blogs | Sociology of Sheena
Finding Peace in Worthiness
Seeing as to how some of my facebook friends attempt to follow a Christ centered worldview, I occassionally come across facebook statuses like this one…. None of us are self-sufficient, none of us are competent, none of us are good enough, none of us are strong enough…we need His grace every day!
When I see post like this, I wonder why they insist on sending poisonous messages throughout my day. I wonder why they insist on dragging trash through their temple. In retrospect, to call that perspective “poisionous” or “trash” isn’t fair. It’s just one worldview among many. But goodness, at least say you aren’t good enough. Why loop us all into your mindset? Le sigh.
Here’s another I came across: ….
Who told you you are unworthy — no good, useless, unusable to God? ….. We all know where this voice comes from: It is the devil himself!
But then later, the speaker says…. Of course, in our flesh we are unworthy. We can never be worthy on our own…..
Point is, I see this kind of mindset all the time. Perhaps I’m surrounding by too many Christians. I need to make some new friends. Months ago, after one too many post like this, I wrote in Be Your Own Source.
There seems to be a damaging mindset in todayâ€™s society where people feel unworthy and undeserving of love and grace. I wonder who taught you that? Who told you that you were not good enough? Who told you that you do not deserve all that is amazing in this world and beyond? ~ Sheena LaShay
Does the god you serve and love tell you on a day to day basis that you are not good enough? Does he tell you, you are nothing without him? Does he say that nothing you do is ever enough and only through him are you worthy?
My goodness!!!! If I didn’t know it was “god” you were referring to, I’d say you were in an abusive relationship and you need to get out NOW!!!
I’m rambling. Perhaps because something about this just seems so stupid to me. I know, “stupid” isnt’ gracious. But its silly to think any one, whether a being, animal, god or machine would ever tell me, I am not enough. And it would be even stupider of me to believe it. Perhaps its one of those things where if you’re in it, you just can’t see how absurd it really is and how crazy and brainwashed you sound.
I looked up “Worthiness” and found a few definitions.
1. having adequate or great merit, character, or value:
2. of commendable excellence or merit; deserving
3. a person of eminent worthÂ merit, or position:
Despite what you believe, I believe in myself. I know I am of god. The same energy that makes up the entity of the universe…all those precious stars, incredible mountains, still waters, magnificent flowers and galaxies beyond imagination…..I am a part of that. There is a spirit inside of me tied to this entire world and beyond. What ever higher form you believe in, whatever name you give this being….I am of it. It’s not bigger than me, lower than me or foreign to me. It’s all connected. Nothing exist in and of itself. It is all connected and I am a part of that connection.
Knowing that, I know I am of value. I know I have merit. My position…. It’s one of holiness and sacredness. You honestly, have no idea!
I see parents tell their children every day that if they believe in themselves and invest their energy, they are capable of ANYTHING and all their dreams can come true. If that is so, why do we follow that up with a mindset of “not good enough?”as it relates to spirituality and our walk in life.
We take a stand with our confidence when it comes to our careers, our loves, our passions, hobbies and talents. We dismiss self doubt regarding, for example, ourselves as an artist. Overcoming fears on inadequency, we stake our claim in being an authentic, wonderful, great artist. We smile and beam with joy as we come into our own. And yet, when it comes to the entirety of our existence; when it comes to our beautiful soul…when it comes to our SELF…we say, “we aren’t good enough and are unworthy.” What the hell is that? That is CRAZY talk! Grace in tactfullness aside, that is pure CRAZY talk.
You teach your children to have confidence but you follow it up with teaching them that they are a sinner and will never really get it right. You tell yourself that if you put forth the effort, you can acheive what you imagine and yet, you say you are nothing without a faceless abusive “god” that tells you you are unworthy. That is some CRAZY shit. No apologies if I’m offending your sensibility.
I believe by insisting that we aren’t “good enough”, we let that excuse be the reason that we…
1. Don’t take full responsibility for ourselves and lives.
2. Refuse to live to our highest potential.
3. Perpetuate a thoughtless society that refuses to progress…. because you know, “we aren’t worthy” anyway.
If you know without a doubt that you were worthy and that you live in abundance and that the resources of this world were for you, you would know no limits.
This may all be antithetical to your beliefs. Or maybe its something you resonate with. Who knows? I just know, I finally found my peace of mind, peace of heart, peace of soul and peace of spirit when I stood firm in my worthiness. When I was able to let go of years of religious indoctrination naming me a sinner and evil spawn of Eve that could never get it right, I finally came into my own. I found God the day I walked away from Christianity’s Jesus and my life has been amazing since.
Again, this isn’t for everyone. Someone of you need Jesus in order to justify your existence. Some of you need church in order to have a purpose. Some of your mental stability hinges on the fact that you are a sinner and Christ died for you. Hey, to each their own!!!! Do you! Perhaps you are not worthy.
I am most definitely worthy. I am of God.
Before you can win, you have to believe you are worthy. ~ Mike Ditka
Your problem is you are too busy holding on to your unworthiness. ~ Ram Dass
In every aspect of our lives, we are always asking ourselves, How am I of value? What is my worth? Yet I believe that worthiness is our birthright. ~ Oprah
~ A sense of worthiness is a child’s most important need. ~ Polly berrien Berends
Self-worth comes from one thing — thinking that you are worthy. ~Wayne Dyer
SLY’s Articles of Note
Articles of Note
Hustle for Worthiness by Brene Brown
A Week of Worthiness by Brene Brown
I Am Enough by Tracey Clarke. (A Self Kindness Collaborative)