In November, my dear friend Kevin celebrated his birthday. I must write this note to him. It is long over due.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY KEVIN!
I’ve known Kevin for MOST of my life. By most I mean at the very least for 20 years! I can’t say that for most people. I think that, in and of itself is something phenomenal about us. A 20 year friendship that has grown, evolved, changed and progressed from when I was a child to the woman I am today. Kevin has been a rock for me. An encourager. A mentor. A friend. A shoulder to cry on. A teacher. An adviser. I’ve told things to Kevin I haven’t the guts to share with anyone else. Kevin has truly seen me at my worse. What I love about him is that during those times his response has been, “Get over yourself!” He knows which buttons of mine to push with the right amount of pressure so that I get the point and that is an artistic ability that not everyone possesses. He is patient with me. Gentle yet firm. He is kind yet honest. He’s really the perfect kind of friend.
I know. I know that I rave about my friends when they have their birthdays and I make them sound like the best thing on earth but I mean every word. And I know things change and not everyone has their shit together and people mess up and hurt you and even my friends who I elevate to gods and goddess have their issues too. Trust me, I’m not wearing rose colored glasses but I’m also fully aware of their dignity, honor and holiness and it is something so grand to me that writing these letters is essential.
So back to Kevin, who means so much to me. First, let me tell you about Kevin. Kevin is a writer. In fact, he is one of my favorite writers. I’m sure you know the worth I put into books, characters and stories. At any moment I could be reading five to ten books at a time. Currently I’m reading eight. Books mean the world to me. Authors are gods. They are the best people on the planet. Their minds should be insured for one billion dollars. And Kevin, he is my favorite. We may have an incredible friendship but I am the BIGGEST fan of his scripts. I quote them. I forget that the characters are not real. I reference them like they are friends of mine until I remember it was simply one of his stories. His stories haunt me. I dream about them. I fantasize about them. I want to be in them. And he lets me read them all! I get that priviledge and its crazy. Not only that, he lets my critique them. He takes my feedback and works with it, listens to it and sometimes he even uses those suggestions. That’s incredible to me. I hope you have the priveledge one day of reading one of his many works. They will blow your mind away.
While I’ve known Kevin for 20 years, our friendship really took off during my college years. During that time we were communicating often about life, art, family and any and everything. What I appreciate about that time then and our friendship right now is that I do not have to use filters around Kevin. My thoughts do not disturb him. They don’t appall him. I can’t say that about everyone. Not even all my friends are like that. Which is fine. I understand. But Kevin is different than that. I can be any articulation of myself no matter what and somehow he finds beauty in it. Its quite phenomenal to me. I suppose its the essence of pure love, of which our friendship is comprised of.
I want to share some of our exchanges. Just bits and pieces.
I once gave Kevin a script of mine to read. After ripping bits of it to shreds while still liking the premise, I love that he wrote….
You probably think I’m hard on you. Maybe I am. I’m tapping into the genius in you now, because I know its there. The idea itself is exceptional. The writing, therefore, must be as well to make it an exceptional piece of work….not good…exceptional. ~ Kevin
After updating my resume soon after my my college graduation, Kevin wrote the following to me….
I saw your resume. It encompassed all you’ve been doing in the past years and made me realize how proud I am of you. I love you very much and keep pushing for excellence. Your future is bright but with a positive mind and life, you will be a light for those coming behind you. Keep shining. I see you, my dear, and its lovely! ~ Kevin
This note is one of my favorites from Kevin.
Haven’t sat and talked to you in a while. I missed our conversations…tea…lattes…etc. til 3 in the morning or in the middle of the day, engaging conversation with you in a room full of people, and we’re the only ones there.
I love Kevin. I am so glad and honored to call him my friend. I enjoy the dynamic between us. His mind blows me away and he’s just a lot of fun to be around. The conversations are ALWAYS guranteed to be lively. Kevin rocks my world.
Kevin, you know how much you mean to me! Thank you for being you, for sharing yourself and always pushing me. I appreciate it all!