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Tuesday, January 8th, 2013
Blogs | Sociology of Sheena
…In the Name of Love and Sex
I’m going to tell you the moral of the story first. GRATITUDE. I’m grateful for friends that remind you of who you are, what’s really important in life and volunteer the clothes off their back all in the name of love and sex.
The other night I was out with my friend Amber, waiting for a Burlesque show to start when my lover called. He wanted me to come over to his place after the show. Amber heard my end of the conversation.
SLY: (on the phone) But I don’t have a change of clothes for work tomorrow. And I have pole class tomorrow night.
Lover: It’s okay then. I know its last minute. We’ll see each other later this week.
SLY: Well, just let me brainstorm for a minute and I’ll call you back.
I hate turning down an opportunity to spend time with family, friends and lovers when given the chance. And him specifically, I don’t care the time of day or place, I just want to see him. So I considered everything. If the Burlesque show ended at a certain time, how long would it take me to get back to my borough, change, pack a bag and then travel by train to his borough? Would it be better to take a taxi? Should I just say no? I flipped every possibility over and over in my head. My friend who had been listening to my end of it turned towards me.
Amber: When did you ever turn a man down because you didn’t have a change of clothes. You are the last person I’d ever think would say that.
SLY: But I have to work tomorrow and I have on a very specific kind of outfit. It would be different if I had on jeans and a tshirt.
Amber: When did you ever care? Really. You’re not going to go see him because of your tights?
SLY: You’re right. I had my pole delivered to my old job. My old boss used to play with my riding crop at work. Why do I care about wearing the same outfit two days in a row? You’re right!
Amber: If its that important we can go in the bathroom and switch dresses. Then when I see you later this week, we’ll just switch them back.
SLY: That is a cute dress. Where did you get it from? Is it bronze colored? I do like it. And we can fit each other’s clothes.
Amber: We can switch if you want so that you have a new outfit for tomorrow. Or just buy some new leggings tomorrow before going to work.
SLY: You’re right. I don’t care. I like him and I want to see him. I’m gonna go after the show!
I get it. When it comes to dating, love and sex….sometimes you have to say no. Sometimes, last minute things don’t work out. Other times, who the fuck cares if you have to wear the same outfit twice? If you live such a life that you have an amazing friendship with a delicious lover, where the conversations always stimulate your mind, where ideal nights involve movie time while his hand strums along the seam of your panty hose and where the sex is yum…..GO! Go see that man right now. Delight in him. Devour him. Discover new parts of him. Talk to him. Kiss him.
This is also a lesson in why you should always wear your pretty panties. You never know where the day may lead.